Spying on Others is Forbidden
Shaykh Nour Mohamad Kabbani
Fenton, Michigan; Saturday, July 4, 2020
As-salaamu `alaykum warahmatullahi ta`aala wa barak atuh,
God willing, peace be upon us all, may His Grace, His Blessings, God willing, be upon us all, both in this world and in the Hereafter so that we live in this world with His Grace and He will also bestow His Grace for us in the Hereafter.
Grandshaykh Mawlana Shaykh Nazim, may God bless his soul and sanctify his secret, he reminded us of the holy Hadith of the Prophet of Allah (peace be upon him). The Prophet (peace be upon him) said,
“My Lord disciplined me, and perfected my good manners.”
Adabanee Rabbee fa ahsana ta’deebee
Allah (swt) has taught me adab.
The holy Qur’an, al-Qur’anul-kareem is full of manners, morals and goodness taught to people. If people could understand the manners in the Holy Qur’an, they would leave everything and follow what the Qur’an brought, but Satan veiled their eyes. Satan said to them, “Don’t look at the Book and don’t listen to the Book,” Even though the scriptures teach people the best manners. So the Prophet of Allah (s) said that God had taught him the best manners, namely the Holy Qur’an.
Grandshaykh said, “That’s why students should have good manners.” The Prophet of Allah (peace be upon him) said, “I have good manners taught by my Lord, addabanee Rabbee, by my Creator.” Grandshaykh said that just as the Prophet of God (peace be upon him) learned good manners, the students should also learn good manners. Grandshaykh said that the first manner a student should learn is to obey his teacher, his shaykh; and this is good manners. He must also respect everything related to his shaykh, to the person through whom Allah (swt) sends all blessings to His servants. The Prophet of Allah (s) is the person through whom all the blessings that Allah (swt) gives to all mankind appear.
Many people objected to the statement. Where did they get their guidance from? Is it from your father’s pocket? The blessings of guidance reach you through the Prophet of Allah (s). God’s favor has reached you, O people, and the best favor is faith. It has reached you through the Prophet of Allah (s). He is the one who has the Ocean of God’s (swt). So just as your Shaykh has conveyed blessings from the Prophet of Allah (s) to you, and we respect the shaykh and the people connected with him and everything connected with him, the same goes for the Prophet of Allah (s). The Grand Shaykh said, “Because the Prophet of Allah (peace be upon him) has favors for mankind and because of him all creatures were created, if he had not been created, not a single creature would have been created,
“If not for you, [O Muhammad] I would not have created the heaven.”
law laaka law laak lamma khalaqtu ‘l-aflaak
If it were not for you (O Habeeb, O Messenger, O Beloved), if not for you, I would not have created an orbit.
Each one is in its orbit, that means the whole creature wouldn’t have been created if it weren’t for the Prophet of Allah (saw). Some people say that it is not a hadith, but Grandshaykh says that it is a valid hadith, there is no doubt in it.
So Believers believe that they should respect Rasulullah (s), it is a duty for every Believer because Allah (swt) Himself has honored him. Allah (swt) Himself has raised him, has perfected him, as Grandshaykh said, wa akmalahu, perfected him; wa ajmalahu, beautified him. Rasulullah (saw) is the most beautiful creature that Allah has ever created. That is our faith, O Believer. So you should glorify Allah (swt) and be grateful for the blessings of Rasulullah (s) and we should respect Rasulullah (s) and everything connected with him, as we said regarding adab, that a disciple should respect his Shaykh and everything that connected with the Shaykh. That is why we respect everyone connected with Mawlana Shaykh Nazim (q). We love everyone connected with Mawlana Shaykh Nazim (q). We glorify everyone connected with Mawlana Shaykh Nazim (q). We don’t despise them. We don’t say bad things about them because we respect them and love them because of our love for our Shaykh. That’s the adab we always keep.
As we do that to our Shaykh, we do the same to Rasulullah (s). Grandshaykh said that everything that is connected to the Prophet of Allah (s), that is related to the Prophet of Allah (s), you should respect it. Grandshaykh Mawlana Shaykh Nazim (q) said, “Grandshaykh `AbdAllah ad-Daghestani (q) told me ‘The presence of a person from the Ahlu ‘l-Bayt, Family of the Prophet (s), even if he is a wrong-doer, and a disobedient person, becomes a sabab, cause to get rid of evil, troubles, difficulties of 70 assemblies of soow‘, bad assemblies around it. Allah will remove the afflictions that have been written down to be sent down to those 70 assemblies of soow’ because of the presence of someone from the Ahlu ‘l-Bayt of the Prophet (s) in the area.'”
Look, what respect we have to maintain towards the Ahlu ‘l-Bayt, to someone who is connected to the Prophet of Allah (peace be upon him), even if he is a wicked person, which means he does something bad.
Grandshaykh said that respect for the part is respect for the whole, and we respect all Ahlu ‘l-Bayt and we don’t spy on what they do.
Spying on other believers is forbidden for a believer. A believer who keeps himself busy playing detective and spying on other believers is haraam; unless the person who did the bad thing has shown it. If a person commits a bad deed then he is munzhiran, showing his deed means that he has told the whole world about himself. But if a person commits a disobedience by accident, without intention, meaning that he falls into that act and he tries to cover up his actions, then it is forbidden for you to tell it to others, especially if he is an Ahlu ‘l-Bayt; because everyone is not infallible, everyone can make mistakes.
Grandshaykh said, “If you see other people’s faults, don’t spread the dirt, don’t carry the dirt.” Whoever brings such impurity or dirt, Allah (swt) will not accept it, Rasulullah (saw) will not accept it. Even the people will not accept it. The person who plays detective to find other people’s faults, the person who secretly spies on others in his house, he is like a black fly. Where did the black fly land? It lands on the part of the human body that has a wound, that has an abscess, qa’ih, festering wound. He took the pus and spread it to other places. So a person who finds fault with others and when he finds it and then spreads dirt it means he is like a black fly that lands on a dirty place, with blood and pus and then carries it to others. That is the characteristic of the person, namely the person who perches on the qa’ih, in the festering wound. They enjoy it. That’s why they entered Hell. Allah (swt) said:
وَلَا طَعَامٌ إِلَّا مِنْ غِسْلِينٍ
Wa laa ta`amun illa min ghisleen, (Surat al-Haqqah, 69: 36)
“They will not get food except ghisleen,”
Ghisleen is the liquid that comes out of rotting flesh. Because they enjoy it in this world, they like to be flies, spreading other people’s filth to others, in Hell they will eat from it.
لَّا يَأْكُلُهُۥٓ إِلَّا ٱلْخَـٰطِـُٔونَ
laa yaa’kuluhu illa ‘l-khaati`oon
No one eats it, except those who are sinners, that is, those who are wrong in giving judgment (about others). (Surat al-Haqqah, 69:37)
Allah (swt) gives you what you seek. People say, “Oh, why does God like to punish?” He didn’t punish you! He only gives you what you like. If you’re always looking for other people’s feces, because you like it, you’ll end up in a pool of feces.
Grandshaykh said that some people have graves like toilets. People dug his grave, and it was filled with toilet objects. They say, “You like it in this world, so take it to the Hereafter.” That’s what you get. So you have to be careful, don’t be a fly. Don’t land on the dirt. Don’t find fault with others.
Grandshaykh teaches adab. A disciple does not find fault with other students. A Muslim does not find fault with fellow Muslims and spread it everywhere. This contradicts the Qur’an. It is against the Sunnah. This contradicts the teachings of the Shuyukh.
Grandshaykh said, “al-hazharu al-hazhar minal inshighaal bi `uyoobi ‘n-naas,” attention, don’t preoccupy yourself with other people’s mistakes. Leave their faults, and occupy yourselves with your own faults. O people, busy yourselves with your own shortcomings, with your own ugliness. Let others, they are also struggling to be better. Grandshaykh said, “Look at your own mistakes, because other people also have eyes, and their eyes will see your mistakes.” If you see other people’s mistakes, Allah (swt) will send someone else to see your mistakes. Anyone who shows shameful characteristics of his brother, Allah (swt) will send someone who will show his shameful characteristics. Be careful!
May Allah (swt) make us people who follow the Sunnah, follow the Hadith, follow the Qur’an; do not backbite, do not expose the faults of others, do not show their ugliness, but on the contrary cover their disgrace. You guys only say good things about them. If you can’t say anything good, it’s better to be quiet; as has been said by the Prophet of Allah (s), especially concerning the Ahlul-Bayt. Grandshaykh said that we should keep our mouths shut, especially regarding Ahlul-Bayt. To the Ahlul-Bayt, we say nothing, nor to the believers and Muslims. We ask Allah (swt) to guide them to goodness.
God willing, we can maintain this adab. This is the teaching of the Shuyukh of the tariqah. Unfortunately today Muslims are busy exposing the shortcomings of others. “Oh look at this man, what he has done!” “Oh look at that man, what he has done!” Instead of busying yourself like that, it’s better for you to concern yourself with your own mistakes. Otherwise, Allah (swt) will expose you. So be careful.
Don’t talk (bad things) about Waliyullah! Don’t talk (bad things) about a Sayyid! Don’t talk (bad things) about Muslim brothers and sisters! Allah (swt) has given them sitr , Allah has covered them so that people do not see their fault. There is even a narration that says that there were some mistakes which the Prophet of Allah (saw) could not see. I have read in several books about Awliyaullah that Allah (swt) told Rasulullah (saw) that he would be sad if he found out. “I am as-Sattar. These are My servants. I will cover their mistakes.” There are some people whom Allah has covered up their faults so that no one knows what they have done. He is as-Sattar! That’s our Lord.
May Allah (swt) forgive us. May Allah (swt) make us as people who follow what the Prophet (saw) said, “Let him say good or be silent”
Fal yaqul khayran aw layasmut
“He should say something good or be silent.”
And as Mawlana Sheikh Nazim said, “Don’t be a black fly!” Otherwise, you will eat dirt in the Hereafter. May Allah make us as people who enter Paradise with the intercession of the Prophet of Allah (peace be upon him). Ameen, ameen, bi hurmati’l-Habeeb (s) wa bi sirri Suratul-Fatiha.
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